Don’t Be Raping, Bro: A reaction to the “Luring your Rapebait” frat email that went viral

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I’m sure most of you have seen the truly reprehensible email by the Phi Kappa Tau fraternity member at Georgia Tech with the subject line “Luring your Rapebait.” For those of you that haven’t, here’s the full text in all it’s degrading and objectifying glory:

“Alright chods, some of you could use some help on how to mack and succeed at parties. Mostly pledges do, but some bros could use a review. For anytime throughout the party… If you are standing by yourself at any point, YOU ARE OUTTA HERE!!! If you are talking to a brother of your pledge brothers when there are girls just standing around, YOU ARE OUTTA HERE!!!

Ok, if it is before midnight… A group of girls is standing around, grab a bro or pledge bro and go talk to them. First, introduce yourself and get their name, ask if they are having a good time, and then ask if they want anything to drink. If they say yes, walk them to the bar and tell them what we have to drink. If they say no and they look like they are in a sorority, ask them if they are in a sorority (DUH). If not, choose one of the following: where are you living, where are you from, have you been here before, how are classes going, or where all have you been tonight. Then proceed to have a conversation. IF THEY ARE HAMMERED AT ANY POINT BEFORE MIDNIGHT, JUST SKIP THE CHIT CHAT AND GO DANCE.

Midnight or after, if you have been talking for awhile and they’ve had a couple drinks, ask if they want to dance. If you see an untalked to group or a solo girl, go up to her and ask if she wants anything to drink. If she says yes, get her a drink and then ask if she wants to dance. If she says no, ask her to dance. DANCING IS FUN!!!!! Always try to dance. If she does not want to dance and is with friends, say “aw thats no fun” (or something like that) and then ask one of her friends.

Here is how to dance: Grab them on the hips with your 2 hands and then let them grind against your dick. After that slowly alternate between just putting your hand across their stomach, but make sure don’t to go to high (keep it under the boob) or too low(dont try to finger her… yet). After a song, start putting your cheek on the side of her cheek. ALWAYS USE YOUR HANDS OR ARMS TO GUIDE THEIR DANCING in order to maximize your pleasure. If she starts putting her hair over her ear, THAT MEANS SHE WANTS A KISS. Therefore, try to give her a kiss on the cheek. They usually like that and nothing really should ebcome of it. In the case, go for the neck kiss. If for some reason they aren’t down for a cheek kiss, just dance through it or say you are going to get another drink and see if they want one. And then repeat from the beginning.

If the party is going good (a.k.a. there are a lot of open girls) try to escalate cause it’s awesome. Here is how to escalate: Try to twist her hips around to face you and dance front to front. FROM THERE THE OPTIONS ARE UNLIMITED! You can make-out with her (tongue on tongue), you can stick your hand up her shirt (not right away though), you can go for a butt grab (outside or inside the shirts), or use your imagination. ALWAYS START WITH THE MAKING OUT!!!! NO RAPING.

A short guide consist of the 7 E’s of HOOKING UP! 1. Encounter (spot a girl or group of girls) 2. Engage (go up and talk to them) 3. Escalate (ask them to dance, or ask them to go up to your room or find a couch, depending on what kind of party) 4. Erection (GET HARD) 5. Excavate (should be self-explanatory) 6. Ejaculate (should also be self explanatory) 7. Expunge (send them out of your room and on their way out when you are finished. IF ANYTHING EVER FAILS, GO GET MORE ALCOHOL. I want to see everyone succeed at the next couple parties.

In luring rapebait,
[name redacted].”

Charming, isn’t it?

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Top 10 Fanfiction Pet Peeves

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So back in the day I used to read a good deal of fanfiction. I even penned the occasional story, though I haven’t written anything fandom related in about seven years. I don’t read it anymore either. But I know a lot of people still do, so as something of a throw-back, I decided to do a blog post on it as a bit of a lark.

Let’s face it, the majority of the fanfiction out there is absolute crap. But you know what, that’s okay, because at least it means that people are passionate enough about something to write about it. I’m all in favor of writing, whatever the topic might be. I would not be the writer I am today had I not started with fanfiction, as it helped me develop not only my writing skills, but also helped me find my writing voice. It also gave me a chance to play with certain themes in a short story format and was good practice for grasping characterization, given that these were already established characters in a pre-existing world. So while fanfiction may have a bad reputation, for those that take the writing seriously, I see it as nothing but a positive thing.

That having been said, however, my time spent wading through the swaths of horrendous fanfics just to find the rare diamond in the rough has allowed me to accumulate a stock-pile of ire-inducing pet peeves that I have routinely stumbled across in my reading. To be fair, there are certain givens that should not come as a surprise when reading fanfiction, especially since a large number of fanfic writers are school-aged youngsters, so things like bad grammar, occasional misspellings and naive, cliche and often-times flat, non-descriptive prose are to be expected. As such, I will not be taking potshots at those qualities since I believe that practice makes perfect, and it’s a bit unfair to rag on someone for at least making an effort to write; I don’t want to discourage anyone from making the attempt so long as they have every intention of improving as they continue.

Everything else, however, is fair game, so let ‘er rip:

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Permadeath: To Continue Or Not To Continue?

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That is the question that many developers are asking themselves…

I recently read an article (“In These Games, Death Is Forever, and That’s Awesome”) on Wired.com focusing on the idea of permanent death for video game characters, and I found that the notion was intriguing enough to warrant some discussion. Yes, even if that discussion is solely with myself.

For those of you who didn’t bother to click the link above, the gist of the article is that there are several video game developers starting to toy with the concept of a permanent death for the player character, whereby once that character is dead, he/she cannot be used again and the player must continue the game with a whole new character. So, for example, any weapons, items and abilities, or even the connection the player has established with their main character will be completely eliminated if the character were to die. The player would then have to establish a new bond with a new character. Items previously gained would only be able to be recovered by visiting the place where the previous character died, if at all.

It also felt like the article really tried to emphasize how awesome this idea is. It was actually the “awesome” part in the title that inspired my blog, as otherwise I might have just read the article, noted that it was an interesting premise and moved on. But it was that descriptor that gave me pause for consideration, because while the idea of permanent death in video games is an intriguing one, I’m not certain I would classify it as “awesome.” I can see a few pros to the concept in action, but I see far more cons or potential stumbling blocks to making it a logistical or mainstream reality.

So it was with that thought in mind that I opted to blog about the good, the bad and the ugly of what will from here on out be referred to as permadeath.

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Misogyny Has No Place In Geek Culture

Or anywhere, for that matter.

It hadn’t been my intention to wade into the realm of misogyny, sexism or anti-feminist troll attacks that have unfortunately continued to pop up and linger despite the decades that have lapsed since the women’s rights movement was won, but it seems like I can’t check my twitter feed without regularly reading about some misogynistic asshole or some group or convention that has tolerated or flat-out endorsed bigotry or sexual harassment of its female members. While I am appalled that this happens everywhere and with every genre grouping, I find it particular offensive that it seems to happen so often in the geek realm, especially given that the stigma that comes from being a “geek” or “nerd” should make us more inclusive, not the other way around. If there’s one group that should understand the negative impact bullying can have on a person, it’s geek culture, so for any so called “geek” or “nerd” to engage in the bullying or intentional discomfiture of others, especially our own members, is downright reprehensible.

Given that the anonymity of the internet creates a breeding ground for hate and trolls, it seems as though you can’t skip a virtual stone across the internet without it ricocheting off porn and hitting a story or comment thread full of this vile misogyny.

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Welcome to Valhalla Combination (aka, ToshiroNoRonin’s Blog)

Welcome to ToshiroNoRonin’s blog, titled Valhalla Combination!

I suppose this is where I’m supposed to let everyone know what this blog is going to be about. I’ve dabbled with the idea of a blog for a while now since I feel like I have a lot of opinions that I want to share. However, when I would sit down to write something I figured maybe nobody really wanted to read what I had to say because, while I’m not one of those indie hipsters who shuns everything mainstream, I tend to not agree with a lot of the mainstream opinions. I also have been known to sound off about things that may not be the most up to date. That’s just how I roll.

But in the end I decided to hell with it, I’m gonna put it out there because since I can rarely find someone who agrees with many of my opinions, it’s something I would want to read if I were scouring the internet. So maybe there’s someone out there like me. And if not, oh well, I’m gonna to do it anyway so we’ll all just have to live with it! 🙂

So what should you expect from this blog? Expect to see the occasional video game or anime review, regular personalized “top 10” lists of related geek topics and random musings about whatever my heart desires.

Enjoy!